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First Love… We all remember it like it was just yesterday. So young and fresh in our minds. The attractiveness of it all. Now I know some people had really awkward times then. .but when u find something truly real and deep at that age. It feels divine! The adrenaline….and rush of emotions you feel towards that person. It's like you can smell them even before they approach the corner. You sense that they are near. You think you can never feel this way about anyone anymore. The fact that they are so perfect and so in tune with you and your feelings. You wanna cherish the moments forever. Then life happens….and he/she moves on...and you have no choice but to move on too. But Oh...how you wanna be stuck in that feeling forever. Yet u can’t ..cos you have to put your life in order also. You have to try to at least get it together. There is admission and school to get to. There is your new job or internship. It all seems like it's all happening at once. You cannot seem to un...

I know I should not be feeling like this. Somehow, I knew this day would still come.. But it does not seem to help. I feel left out. My older sis would be getting married in a few days and I have never felt more alone. Sadly, I am not even looking forward to the day. The day I prayed so hard for. Rewind, few months back, the family was ecstatic,myself included. Now that the day draws near ,I am aware of all the unspoken words and spoken ones that would be said to me that day. I am from a family of all girls and I am the second born, our third was the first to get married, now it's our first, which is a long time coming. I am the only one left now of marriageable age who is yet to be attached also. I see the pity looks at work or the worrisome ones from colleagues who think… maybe she is too picky. I know within my heart that I am not and that I am just yet to meet that one who sets my soul and heart on fire or race like they say. I know that at the right time, Almighty Allah ...

Today is about the busybodies. Those people that never mind their business and actually make everyone’s business theirs. W e also have those that you are not even aware they exist and they know your full information down to your first residential address and ward room No of the hospital you were born in. Now society has tried to have us all convinced. Infact, a lot of people still believe that a lot of peeps who indulge in office gossips, poke-nosing into others affairs e t.c are females..but Alas, the truth is that so many men are guilty of this behaviour. From your fake aunties or Uncles in the family (you know the one that never spent a kobo on you since you were born but likes to famz you as soon as you do anything great ,or say arrive in a new ride to owning properties or even graduation day e.t.c) to the famzers at your workplace that go round telling everyone that you guys used to be friends or that they know you from Adam...when really you have never said a ‘hi’ to them ...

it's amazing how you can be going about your business, just doing your thing and life happens. Yep. That's living in Nigeria for you. You never know what will happen to you before the day is over. A country with no structure /plan or regards for its inhabitants or citizens is bound to be full of uncertainties and so many unplanned disasters..like the Otedola one that claimed lots of lives recently. Youths wake up with no hope or means of survival. Being educated and a First Class degree holder is just a story for the gods. Thugs are our leaders, Musicians are our role models with their rough and flashy lifestyles and their reckless way of living. We drown ourselves in countless church services thinking the Lord will be our saviour.. But oh no, we av to save ourselves first . Have u ever stopped to wonder why there are so many churches, mosques and religious clerics but very little morals or regards for human lives. Indecency, killings and fightings are the order of the day. W...

Yes I am 30 plus and I have never had sex. Don't know why everyone finds that so hard to believe. Like I am supposed to be lying about something that serious or true. Also, why do i have to lie or say the truth. It is what it is. A fact. It's neither the truth nor a lie.. Guess somethings' are just better left unsaid. This is why I never tell anyone anymore that I am a V cos then they ask u stupid questions. I am a virgin not naive or stupid. Also, some things just require u having a brain and making use of it. I am not stupid. I know that in this decade and century, it's very hard being a virgin and keeping a long lasting relationship. Most of the so called church and mosque brothers do not even believe you when they know because they do not practice what they preach nor what the holy books tell us. I chose to remain one cos I did not want to have deal with mood swings or weight swings that pills bring and unwanted pregnancies. If I was going to go through all this...

As women, so many things lead to pre-mature ageing especially as african women. We cook all the time (the kitchen heat is bad for the skin and thus ages us faster. That is why you have to take better care of your skin. The skin is one of the largest organ in the body and most vital. Everything u do and don't do reflects on it. Now this starts from what you eat ,drink and don't drink or eat also. I have always been obsessed with my skin looking ageless and flawless ...even though i do not ever get enough sleep and drink enough water (which you absolutely must do if u want to look as young and ageless as Gabrielle Union or kourtney Kardashian (that is their No 1 beauty secret) as well as drinking fresh squeezed lemon in warm/room temp water every morning. It washes out your system and is very good for women (you can read more of this online if you want) Now there are several hacks to achieveing this.  SUNSCREEN :- First thing i noticed is a lot of women do not know or ...

It's a busy Monday morning.. I try to shake off the feeling of not getting enough sleep and try to get prepared for work. I remind myself why this job is so important to me and why I have to be on time. If only I was one of those kids that their parents have managed to accrue millions to make their lives easier for them. Don't get me wrong. I like to work hard for what I want, go get it and all...but everyone knows that in Naija,if u like be multi-talented and dripping with ideas, if your peeps are not rich or well connected or even yourself..then those dreams may remain just that, dreams!.   I snap myself out of my daydream, rush into the shower and get dressed. On my way out, I can feel my landlady staring straight into my back from her balcony upstairs just so I can greet her “Good morning ma”. Hmm…finally I call out “E kaaro ma” (which is Yoruba for Good morning ma ), she quickly responds ka’aro. In my mind, I'm like whatever.. Thirsty woman. One would think she was...

Its literally almost 12hrs and we are yet to have our electrical power come back on. Sometimes i wonder how i was born here. Clearly i am not cut out for this life of suffering. Its a sunday and yet it seems like we are asking for too much just to have regular power in 2018 or at the very least an heads up or excuse..as to why this is not so. but NO. This is Naija.. Everyone is a boss. No need to explain. I sigh for like the hundredth time today... My phone batt life is at its last stage and is set to go off anytime soon....goes off just before i complete the thought and i am left now with nothing to do...sadly! Aaargh... this is so heartbreaking. I get up to go prepare dinner as bro-in law walks in. He shakes his head when he realizes there is no light and goes to turn on the Generator. This is our life here...only God knows all what we inhale everyday and still do from different kinds of pollution. If its not generator fumes, it is car fumes or factories built in between houses.. O...

I know...i know.. You just clocked 30 and it feels like you are yet to achieve anything great in your life. You wonder where all the time went. Honey...this is life.. It rarely ever goes according to plan. We are all winging it as it comes. No one really knows what they are doing. Not even the so called celebs. They are humans just like us. The only difference between us and them is that they have a bunch of teams or a team guiding them on their steps and how to handle business and even their personal lives. Which to me is really sad.  I don't need anyone telling me who or not to sleep with. Honestly i know how hard it is as a black female in her 30's being single. You go to family functions and you get the pitiful look or d sad side eye...Aargh.. Its the absolute worst. But u know what.  Its not the end of the world. Infact, i think you are lucky to have not settled and gotten hitched early.. In my opinion, God loves u. He wants you to work on yourself, build your empire, ...

Its a cold sunday morning and as usual PHCN has restored their yeye power. Feeling very motivated this morning and i think i may retain this tempo till the week runs out. I stretch and yawn then realize i am no more feeling as sleepy as i was when i woke up to observe fajr (Morning prayer). As a muslim,you have to get up around 5-5:30 to pray no matter how tired you are. That is the only way to thank your God for making you see the light of another day 😊.  Also isn't it just in our DNA as Africans to be religious? We pray and fast all the time like we killed Jesus christ ..but fail to act right or do the right thing so that things can take its natural course. Enough of my wandering thoughts as i am jolted back to my surroundings with the very loud noise of my neighbours generator. You see this is my third month living here and i do not think i could ever get used to it. Sounds like the size for a factory...but hey,this is Naija. Where everyone is either too selfish to care or ...