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A special girl!

There is this special girl, a one of a kind of girl who is different from any other girl you have met. A girl who knows exactly what it is she wants out of life. And a girl who isn't afraid to get it. A girl who knows how valuable she is.

You may think that she is heartless and ruthless. Actually, she is someone who knows how to love!

Someone who would give you all of her heart. Someone who craves love. She just thinks that romantic love is too complicated for her and that she is too complicated for love.

One of the first reasons why this woman is convinced she is not meant to be loved is that she has been through a lot in the past. She was this open-hearted, vulnerable and naive girl who was ready to carry her heart on the sleeve. A girl who had faith in people and that brought her a lot of trouble.

But her past experiences taught her to be different.
Her heartbreaks and failed relationships taught her to become guarded and to protect herself the best way possible. They taught her that the best thing she could do was build thick and high walls around her heart. All of the pain she's been through has made her skeptical and wonder if love even exists.

I won't lie to you. This girl isn't easy to handle. The truth is that she is challenging and has a complicated mind. She is not easy to impress or amaze...and being with her takes a lot of time, energy and patience.

This girl has a complex mind. She doesn't crave a simple life. No, this girl always wants more. She has big dreams, hopes and aspirations!

This girl isn't willing to change for anyone's sake. This does not mean she is not ready to compromise with her romantic partner. But she will never change the essence of her personality, No matter how she loves you.

And that is something that has bothered most of the men in her life so far. They've all wanted to mold her and to make her fit their standards. But this is something she will never agree to doing. She would never agree to being something she is not because she doesn't need a man who cannot accept her for who she really is.

Everything this girl has ever been through in the past has toughened her. It has made her a strong and independent woman who doesn't need a man to feel good about herself. It has made her become the man she always wanted to have.

This girl has realised she does not need a man to complete her nor guide her through life. And she definitely does not need a man who will try to tame her or someone who will be intimidated by her. She doesn't need someone holding her down.

All of this has made her think that she is simply not cut out to spend the rest of her life with someone. It has made her think that she doesn't need her other half and that she isn't meant to find her soulmate and forever person.

When this woman looks around herself. She sees couples who swore eternal love for each other but, there is not much love underneath that shiny surface and this is not something that she wants for herself.

You may think that this woman is too picky when It comes to men or plays hard to get, but the truth is, she only has high standards and deal breakers. This girl knows her worth and is not ready to settle for a love she doesn't deserve and for a man who doesn't deserve her.

Even though this is a tough girl who knows what she wants from life. The truth is that deep down, she still believes in fairytales. She still believes that love isn't rational or logical and that it is a matter of the heart.

And she doesn't want an ordinary love. She does not want to be with someone because it's time for her to settle down or because she is afraid of being alone. Deep down she wants to experience a twin-flame love and a real life fairytale. She doesn't want anything less. She wants to find a man who will be her true soulmate..but she also thinks she idealises love.

She is convinced that she is being too romantic and that the love she wants for herself will never happen to her.


Another reason this woman is convinced she is not meant to be loved is that she is not afraid of being on her own. She isn't scared of her single life, and she isn't ready to be with someone just for the sake of being in a relationship. She is waiting for the right guy who will give her everything she needs and deserves. She wants someone who will give her back all the efforts she is giving him. Someone who will appreciate her and who will reciprocate her love.

Sadly, she is slowly losing hope that someone like this will ever come into her life.

Being with this girl can sometimes make you feel like you are trying to solve a puzzle. She will always confront you, question and analyse everything. And this is one of the things which has made her think that she is hard to love. She is convinced that she will never find someone who is ready to put up with this part of her. That she will never find a man who will be ready to put an effort into someone like her.

If only she knew that special man is also waiting for her just like she is and everyday he talks to God to keep her for him and bring her his way just like she does.


Comments

Sulola said…
Interesting read. Hopefully,she meets him and if she doesn't -according to tangled- not all true love has to be romantic. As long as she can find fulfillment within herself she'll always be happy.
Bow said…
Reading how this Special girl has always been n how she handle things now.. reminded me of a song and made me feel i read the post all wrong without the song playing..
So 🎵( it Ain't me ft Selena Gomez) 🎧 now that's much better. Not willing to change essence of her personality and other things she believes in, shouts 🎵(it Ain't me).. she should stay true to that..

The kind of love she wants is most def' real and will surely find her..
Thanks everyone.Glad you enjoyed it 😊. This is just fictional writing.if it has any similarities to real life person(s) or characters. It is merely a coincidence. My posts are to inspire. Thanks for taking time out to comment. We only spread love here ❤

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