30's ERA

I know...i know.. You just clocked 30 and it feels like you are yet to achieve anything great in your life. You wonder where all the time went. Honey...this is life.. It rarely ever goes according to plan. We are all winging it as it comes. No one really knows what they are doing. Not even the so called celebs. They are humans just like us. The only difference between us and them is that they have a bunch of teams or a team guiding them on their steps and how to handle business and even their personal lives. Which to me is really sad.
 I don't need anyone telling me who or not to sleep with.

Honestly i know how hard it is as a black female in her 30's being single. You go to family functions and you get the pitiful look or d sad side eye...Aargh.. Its the absolute worst. But u know what.  Its not the end of the world. Infact, i think you are lucky to have not settled and gotten hitched early.. In my opinion, God loves u. He wants you to work on yourself, build your empire, have a stable business.. Before u get into a marriage. Cos trust me,once you are in it.. There is no going back.
Sometimes i wonder if people generally care about your happiness is why they want you married on time. But nah, i am not fooled. Most of them are miserable in their unions so they hate that you look carefree always with no burden or worries. Even the sad nosy aunt that cannot mind her business. They just want you to be sad like them. Not saying marriage is not beautiful.. But i am saying see the world, go on dates( good ones i may add..) lol..good luck controlling that! Take a chance on that dude who has been on ur case... Yeah see if he is any good for u. Work on a good business plan.. Start executing them. Basically live your fabulous life in ur 30's and watch the right man find you.
Yes...you heard me hunnay, he finds you...not the other way around...and by the time he does.. No one can mess with your self-esteem. You already know you are a badass who can have fun all by herself.. He is just a plus one 😊. You know someone who is the ying to your yang.. (i just made that up or maybe i got that 4rm a movie... Who knows. Lol)
My point is never ever apologise for who you are. God knows why he delays blessings.. Humans just like to guess. Just do you and everything will fall in place.
Moreover don't tell anyone... But u need a certain level of maturity to handle men else they drive you crazy and make you doubt your existence or self. Also, sex is just better for a woman in her 30's cos by then you know what sails your boat and doesn't. 20's was the trial period. 30's is the new teenage rave and 40's is the new 20's. Enjoy!

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